Frequently Asked Questions

A: Therapy and coaching are both supportive, goal-oriented services aimed at helping individuals improve their lives, but they differ significantly in their approaches, goals, and the issues they address.

Therapy Purpose:

• Therapy, also known as counseling or psychotherapy, focuses on addressing and treating mental health issues and emotional difficulties.
• It aims to help individuals understand and resolve past traumas, understand their emotions and behavior, and develop coping strategies.

Coaching Purpose:

• Coaching focuses on helping individuals achieve specific personal or professional goals.
• It is future-oriented, emphasizing actionable steps and strategies to improve performance and reach objectives.

Therapy Approach:

• Therapists are trained in various therapeutic techniques and theories, including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), psychoanalysis, humanistic therapy, and more.
• The process is often long-term and can delve deeply into the individual’s history and underlying issues.

Coaching Approach:

• Coaches use various techniques to motivate, guide, and provide accountability to clients.
• The relationship is often shorter-term and focused on achieving measurable outcomes and milestones.

While both therapy and coaching can significantly benefit individuals, they serve different purposes and are suited to different needs. Therapy is ideal for those needing help with mental health issues and emotional healing, while coaching is more appropriate for individuals looking to achieve specific goals and improve certain aspects of their personal or professional lives.

• Deep Emotional Issues: If your decision is influenced by deep emotional pain, trauma, or mental health issues, therapy might be more appropriate. Therapists can help you explore and heal from these underlying issues.
• Mental Health Concerns: If you are experiencing significant anxiety, depression, or other mental health concerns related to your marriage or the potential divorce, therapy is crucial to address these issues properly.

First, book your initial call. During our time together we will explore where you are, what you most desire, what is keeping you from getting what you want, and identify the next best steps that align for you. If it makes sense to both of us to create a coaching relationship, you will be given all the information you need to know what to expect during our container.

All sessions will be held over zoom, a video conferencing platform. With couples coaching, you and your partner may join from separate locations.

Sessions take approximately one hour.

This will vary depending on what program we determine is best for you. I encourage you to give it everything you’ve got! After all, this is your journey!

• If your partner is not on board, the answer is simple: book a call for individual coaching. He/she may come around as you pursue your own happiness (I see this more often than not).
• If your partner is not sure if he/she is on board with couples coaching, let them know that the two of you can get onto a free call with me and then decide. Invite him/her to sit down with you (and my calendar) to book a call together.. You can also send them to this page (FAQ), if they want more information. If after an hour together we decide it is not a good fit, you will be one step closer to clarity about what you DO want and need together.
• If you’re not sure if your partner is on board with couples coaching but your heart truly desires it, invite them onto the free call. Let them know that there is no risk and that it would mean a lot to you if they would be willing to set aside the hour to consider coaching as an option for the two of you.
• If you’re too afraid to ask your partner about couples coaching, book a call with me individually. I can help guide you to your truth and identify what you want, and what you need to get it.

Coaching can indeed be helpful if you’re considering divorce, but its suitability depends on the specific aspects of your situation and what you hope to achieve. Here’s how coaching with me can assist you:

1. Clarifying Goals and Values:
   • Coaching can help you gain clarity about your values, priorities, and what you want out of your life and relationships.
   • This process can help you make a more informed decision about whether to proceed with a divorce.
2. Decision-Making:
   • Coaching can provide a structured approach to decision-making, helping you weigh the pros and cons of staying in the marriage versus getting a divorce.
   • Coaching can help you explore your options and the potential consequences of each choice.
3. Emotional Support and Empowerment:
   • While not a substitute for therapy, coaching can offer emotional support and help you build confidence and resilience during a challenging time.
   • Coaching can work with you to develop coping strategies and improve your emotional well-being.
4. Communication and Conflict Resolution:
   • Coaching can help you improve communication skills, which might lead to better conversations with your spouse about your relationship.
   • Learning conflict resolution skills can help you navigate difficult discussions and possibly find ways to address issues within the marriage.
5. Planning and Moving Forward:
   • If you decide to pursue a divorce, I can help you create a plan for moving forward, including setting goals for your future and developing steps to achieve them.
   • Coaching can assist you in managing the practical and emotional aspects of transitioning to a new phase of your life.

Intimacy coaching can help people improve their relationships with themselves, friends, and family. Intimacy coaches can help clients explore their needs, communication styles, and emotions, and provide tools to improve physical intimacy and emotional connection. There are different types of intimacy coaching, including:

• Relationship coaching: Focuses on improving communication, building trust, and fostering connection
• Sex coaching: Focuses on the physical and sexual aspects of intimacy
• Somatic coaching: A holistic approach that helps clients find the connection between their mind and body

Coaching helps revive intimacy, security, openness, and warmth. Also empowers you to articulate your individual dreams and create a new, shared vision for your relationship in the future. Also can help people and couples improve their relationships by teaching them tools for communication, conflict resolution, and intimacy. They can also help people identify challenging attitudes, set goals, and understand their current partnerships. Relationship coaches can work with people in romantic relationships, families, and friendships.

When’s the last time you talked about sex? Were you able to be candid and vulnerable? How educational was it?

Did you walk away from the conversation feeling heard and empowered?

Sex is an important element in our romantic relationships. It’s a way of expressing our emotions, relieving stress, and connecting more deeply with people.

But it’s also a very individual, personal thing—and not a lot of us are brought up recognizing, appreciating, or practicing that part of sexuality.
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Talking about sex and intimacy can be extremely uncomfortable and difficult—especially for people with anxiety, trauma history, or other emotional challenges. But for all of us, there’s a lot to uncover and understand…and we ignore or suppress it at our peril.

Whatever your relationship status—whether you’re working on something with a partner or on your own—intimacy, sex, and relationship coaching can help you get on the path toward overcoming your struggles, begin enjoying sexuality as natural as it is and have fulfilling relationships a part of your life.

It’s not easy to be ‘good’ at maintaining a loving relationship that evolves over time. Even if you love each other a lot, being in a thriving relationship involves learning new skills and refreshing your perspective.

If you didn’t have positive relationship role models, you may never have learned how to create a close relationship.

There’s no shame in reaching out for help! You’ll be doing a lot of work during the coaching process and between sessions – along with the guidance of a coach who has the training and perspective to uncover patterns in your relationship that are often impossible for you to see on your own.

I see it as a great tragedy when one partner limits their happiness waiting for the other partner to change. Pursue your own happiness! Our initial call is completely free, so there is zero risk. If your partner declines your invitation, then register for individual coaching! Your new attitude will likely be infectious and your partner may decide to hop on board as we go.

The reality is, you hold the key to your next level.

A Sex Coach is a sexuality professional who acts as an objective guide, providing education and consultation for consenting adults to define and then actualize their own sexual goals.

In The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice, Dr. Patti Britton says that “the Sex Coach pushes/guides/directs the client toward their sexual goals. Like all coaches, the sex coach holds a positive vision for the client. The sex coach can act as a mirror for that client’s desire to reach exquisite goals for sexual pleasure.”

In other words, Sex Coaching is just like any other coaching field, with the objective being a healthier, more fulfilling sex life. I prefer to call this Sensual Education, because not all education provided by a Sex Coach is strictly sexual.

Anything related to sex! Some of the most prevalent concerns a Sex Coach addresses are listed below.

• General Sex Education & Sexual Anatomy — you know, just like you probably didn’t get in school!
• Sexual Skill deficiency — we ALL can learn more about pleasing ourselves & our partner(s)
• Low Desire / Low Libido
• Orgasm Difficulty and/or Loss of ability to Orgasm
• Ethical Non-Monogamy and/or Partnering style issues
• Communication
• Breakdowns
• Fetish & Kink
• Toy/Tool
• Recommendations
• Relationship & Intimacy Advice
• Sexual Identity
• Porn & Sex Addiction and/or Dependency
• Masturbation woes… and much, much more!

I help clients reclaim intimacy, sensual and sexual pleasure in a range of areas:

• Become comfortable and confident talking about sex
• Normalize sexual feelings and interests
• Deepen intimacy with a partner
• Restore libido and desire for sexual connection
• Gain or regain ability to experience orgasm either alone or with a partner
• Overcome issues of painful sex as a result of menopause (non-medical origin)*
• Become empowered engaging in safer sex discussions with new partners and gain knowledge of safer sex methods
• Learn about sex in aging bodies and how to continue having satisfying sex and connectivity at any age
• Regain joyful sensual and sexual pleasure after divorce or gaps in sexual activities
• Restore self-love and a positive body image

Any adult with intimacy and sexual concerns, including discomfort talking about sex, embarrassment over sexual likes or dislikes, low/no desire, feeling disconnected from one’s partner, orgasm issues, premature ejaculation, painful sex, sexual inhibitions, body image issues, social/dating skills concerns and more. I also work with individuals and couples on communication skills, building intimacy and for newer couples, learning how to have empowered safer sex conversations. I am LGBTQ+ friendly, though I refer out for more complex issues relating to trans concerns.

A sex coaching session is a private space within an allotted time where sexual concerns may be addressed at length between client and coach. It can be virtual, over the phone, or even in a series of texts or emails! Sessions are a great space to explore physical, emotional, and mental blocks that manifest in your sex life without judgment, address body image and/or performance hang-ups, and to educate yourself about any sex/uality concerns.

I like to think of a Sex Coaching session as holding space for any concern related to why you may not be fully embodying your most sensual & sexual self. Which is hard as hell in these times, believe me. I am here to help!

The answer is an emphatic “NO!” My coaching practice is “hands off-clothing on.” Many of my home assignments will include sexual activities, but my clients do those activities in the privacy of their own homes. I do not engage in any form of erotic exchange with clients—ever.